What does life in the fast / slow lane mean, why do we say it and what happens to us mindset wise? I aim to answer these questions. For me, having Fibromyalgia, ME / CFS (myalgic encephalomyelitis / Chronic fatigue syndrome), PCOS (polycystic ovary syndrome), and Type II EDS (Joint Hypermobile Ehlers-Danlos syndrome) means I have the unique ability to live in both the fast and slow lane. This does not mean however that I like either as much as the other.

Living life in the fast / slow lane simply put means how much we try to cram in the day or not cram in the day, what is fast to one person may seem slow to others and it is purely down to individuals and how they perceive their lives. In today’s society we are very much encouraged to live in the fast lane and only get in the slow lane when we go on holiday, but even when we go away on our relaxing break we don’t really relax as we are constantly thinking what are we doing when, unless it truly is a turn up to the hotel and laze by the pool or go to the beach for the entire day. I often find myself catching myself up coming back the other way. Slow lane days are usually forced upon me through my conditions. Slow lane days are great to recharge your batteries and re-discover and re-centre yourself, by this I mean take some you time, do something for you that helps you relax, unwind, re-focus your energies and mind.

On a slow lane day, if I am not totally bed bound I will get myself out into the wilderness have a little walk in nature, go to the beach and stand barefoot in the sand where the tide comes in and just breath in and out as the waves come in and out, it is so therapeutic and relaxing, I can feel the weight of the world releasing and leaving my body. I feel relaxed but energised at the same time.

Fast lane days are when I am super focused and I look at my list of jobs to do that are written on my white board and I get a real sense of achievement when I wipe a job off the board, there are times when more work will come in throughout the day and all I do is literally add it to the bottom of the list and I get to it when I can. I also make sure I have a cut off time for work and at that point in time I will turn off my computer and relax and unwind for the rest of the night. I NEVER eat or drink at my computer, this means I physically and mentally walk away from work at set points during the day and take some me time whilst I eat a snack or meal, and / or have a cup of tea.

At the end of the day we all need to find a balance in life, my balance works for me, but might not necessarily work for anyone else, see what works for you. If you get stuck get in touch and I can help work out a plan for you, whether you are totally new to all this or seasoned professional who utilises mindset from other sources. Different coaches have different methods and thoughts. Whether you are young or old it is never too late to start taking care of you and your mental well being. For years we have always had help and advice on how to take care of ourselves physically, now it is time to take care of your self healing and mindset as well as your physical health, because if you are physically unwell it can affect your self healing and mindset and if your self healing and mindset is unwell, it can affect your physical health as well.

Final word; get yourself out there and try slowing down a little in life, at the end of the day life is for living, breath in that life and enjoy the wonders each day brings to you, turn negatives into positives and know you are never alone on this planet.